I'm not a school bully
Today, just after school release. My classmate, Daniel's AhMa called for me and say..."You just now shout at Daniel's ear or not?" Then say, "You can't do that, ok! his ear drum will brust ok!" Blah...Blah...Blah...
At this time, Mum leaned forward and ask if I really did that and I replied "I don't remember...". Mum then said to me that if I really did "shout" at Daniel's ear, I must admit and must NOT tell lies. This time, I panic and about to cry... I told Mum that it is because Daniel "cut my queue...". At the background, the AhMa said "if you really did, just admit, nobody will beat you one..." (What the heck is this old lady think she is? Who is she to "beat" my son!)
Hearing that, Mum turn and walk away. On our way home, Mum explained to me that even if my classmate did really "cut my queue" I don't need to "fight back" because, it is NOT a competition and there is no prize to be the first in queue. I replied "Yes, Mum."
Mum:"Every day, every moment. I'm trying very hard to teach littleseah to be his best behaviour and manners. But for goodness sake, he is only six years old. Every mother will know that we can't expect our kid to remember FOREVER those words we said. We need to constantly repeat and repeat and remind and remind what can be done or what cannot be done...all the time.
I remember one of my friend told me that she can "punish" her childen 1000times in a day for every single mistakes they make but do you really want that? Of couse, NO!
For me, I need to have a big heart "to forgive" NOT only my son wrongdoing but also his classmates...for example, Jasmine. She cut his eraser into tiny pieces and won't stop doing even when my son told her to stop. He came home and I scolded him for "playing with his eraser and wasting money" then Son told me that it was not him but his classmates. I asked if he informed his teacher, he said yes but this girl, Jasmine still continue doing the same thing on a couple of occassions...As a mother, what can I do? Of course, I can "complaint" to her mother but it is really necessary? It's only a small matter and I don't wish to behave too petty over it.
On another case, a classmate name, Desmond. He grabed his fingers and bent it backwards! Son came home and told me that he have difficulty in writing because his fingers is really hurting...I feel "heart-pain" and asked what had happen? He told me the whole event and I asked did Son did he "provoked or challenged" Desmond in any way? He answered no, Desmond just turn around and grab his fingers. Teacher is awared of this incident and told Desmond that is it not right to do such thing to your classmate and after that, Teacher made Desmond apologise to him. Again, I can voice my unhappiness to Desmond's mother or AhMa but I did not because Teacher already told Desmond that such behaviour is a NO-No, so let bygones but bygones... but if Desmond ever going to repeat such act, I think I need to let his mother know about this unacceptable behaviour.
BTW, about Daniel's AhMa, she is NO saint. She accused my son early this year and later I found out that her grandson and the other 2 friends was grabbing my son so in the mid of "breaking-free". Son accidently "kick" his face causing the redness at the lower part of Daniel's eye. Without knowing the head and tail, she came and shouted at me, in front of the other parents saying that "My son is so naughty, play so rough...blah...blah...blah" After much investigation, I insist their Teacher to explain to her about the actual situation and she didn't even have the cheek to apologise at all. So please don't ever try to ask people to admit mistakes when you yourself don't even have the guts to do. At least, I know my Son don't lie and he is NOT afraid to admit if he is really in wrong.
Everyone learnt from their mistakes, who don't but do you have the gut to admit?
At this time, Mum leaned forward and ask if I really did that and I replied "I don't remember...". Mum then said to me that if I really did "shout" at Daniel's ear, I must admit and must NOT tell lies. This time, I panic and about to cry... I told Mum that it is because Daniel "cut my queue...". At the background, the AhMa said "if you really did, just admit, nobody will beat you one..." (What the heck is this old lady think she is? Who is she to "beat" my son!)
Hearing that, Mum turn and walk away. On our way home, Mum explained to me that even if my classmate did really "cut my queue" I don't need to "fight back" because, it is NOT a competition and there is no prize to be the first in queue. I replied "Yes, Mum."
Mum:"Every day, every moment. I'm trying very hard to teach littleseah to be his best behaviour and manners. But for goodness sake, he is only six years old. Every mother will know that we can't expect our kid to remember FOREVER those words we said. We need to constantly repeat and repeat and remind and remind what can be done or what cannot be done...all the time.
I remember one of my friend told me that she can "punish" her childen 1000times in a day for every single mistakes they make but do you really want that? Of couse, NO!
For me, I need to have a big heart "to forgive" NOT only my son wrongdoing but also his classmates...for example, Jasmine. She cut his eraser into tiny pieces and won't stop doing even when my son told her to stop. He came home and I scolded him for "playing with his eraser and wasting money" then Son told me that it was not him but his classmates. I asked if he informed his teacher, he said yes but this girl, Jasmine still continue doing the same thing on a couple of occassions...As a mother, what can I do? Of course, I can "complaint" to her mother but it is really necessary? It's only a small matter and I don't wish to behave too petty over it.
On another case, a classmate name, Desmond. He grabed his fingers and bent it backwards! Son came home and told me that he have difficulty in writing because his fingers is really hurting...I feel "heart-pain" and asked what had happen? He told me the whole event and I asked did Son did he "provoked or challenged" Desmond in any way? He answered no, Desmond just turn around and grab his fingers. Teacher is awared of this incident and told Desmond that is it not right to do such thing to your classmate and after that, Teacher made Desmond apologise to him. Again, I can voice my unhappiness to Desmond's mother or AhMa but I did not because Teacher already told Desmond that such behaviour is a NO-No, so let bygones but bygones... but if Desmond ever going to repeat such act, I think I need to let his mother know about this unacceptable behaviour.
BTW, about Daniel's AhMa, she is NO saint. She accused my son early this year and later I found out that her grandson and the other 2 friends was grabbing my son so in the mid of "breaking-free". Son accidently "kick" his face causing the redness at the lower part of Daniel's eye. Without knowing the head and tail, she came and shouted at me, in front of the other parents saying that "My son is so naughty, play so rough...blah...blah...blah" After much investigation, I insist their Teacher to explain to her about the actual situation and she didn't even have the cheek to apologise at all. So please don't ever try to ask people to admit mistakes when you yourself don't even have the guts to do. At least, I know my Son don't lie and he is NOT afraid to admit if he is really in wrong.
Everyone learnt from their mistakes, who don't but do you have the gut to admit?
posted by littleseah at 1:16 AM
